Anger is a natural feeling that affects us all. But for some people, anger can get out of control and cause problems with relationships, work and even the law.
Things that can make us feel angry include:
Physical signs of anger
“One in five people have ended a relationship because of the way the other person dealt with anger,” says Celia. “Reports show that anger problems are as common as depression and anxiety but people don’t often see it as a problem, or don’t realise there are ways to tackle it.”
Individual reactions to being angry
People can express anger verbally, by shouting: sometimes this can be aggressive, involving swearing, threats or name-calling. Some people react violently and lash out physically, hitting other people, pushing them or breaking things.
Other people might react to anger by hiding it or turning it inwards against themselves. They can be very angry on the inside but feel unable to let it out.
It’s important to deal with anger in a healthy way that doesn’t harm you or anyone else. Intense and unresolved anger is linked to health conditions such as high blood pressure, depression, anxiety and heart disease. It can also affect your relationships and work, and get you into trouble with the law.
Dealing with anger in a healthy way includes:
You can also look at what makes you angry, and how you deal with those feelings. For specific tips, see Controlling your anger, or the Mental Health Foundation’s Cool Down booklet, which also includes advice on where you can go if you want professional help.
Learning to control your anger
If uncontrolled anger leads to domestic violence (violence or threatening behaviour within the home), there are places that offer help and support. Talk with your GP, or contact domestic violence organisations such as Refuge or Women’s Aid.